A new answer

So many people over the years have asked what it is like to go through all the medical issues we have encountored, and to be honest I have never really had a great answer. I have always just acknowledge it as, "What choice do I have", or "We just do it".
Those were my answers up until last night when I found this on my girlfriend Kaci's CB page (Don't tell, but she sneaked it from our friend Amy! LOL)

So, sit back and enjoy my NEW answer to our medical life.

Emily Perl Kingsley.

c1987 by Emily Perl Kingsley. All rights reserved

I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with "special needs" - to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It's like this......

When you're going to have a baby, it's like planning a fabulous vacation trip - to Italy. You buy a bunch of guide books and make your wonderful plans. The Coliseum. The Michelangelo David. The gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It's all very exciting.

After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, "Welcome to Holland."

"Holland?!?" you say. "What do you mean Holland?? I signed up for Italy! I'm supposed to be in Italy. All my life I've dreamed of going to Italy."

But there's been a change in the flight plan. They've landed in Holland and there you must stay.

The important thing is that they haven't taken you to a horrible, disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine and disease. It's just a different place.

So you must go out and buy new guide books. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met.

It's just a different place. It's slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you've been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around.... and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills....and Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts.

But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy... and they're all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there.....

.... but if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn't get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things ... about Holland


BoufMom9 said...

Perfect Cindy! I might have to steal this from you too :)

Anonymous said...

Oh my. wow. i don't know what else to say. that is simply said - amazing !

Jen VW

Marielle said...

What a perfect way to answer. I will sure use this example when needed. But I will have to ajust it a little........ I live in Holland LOL

mommytoalot said...

This is one of my all time favourites. I just shared this with our parenting group in March.

Kath said...


I LOVE that poem! I don't know if I told you I have a disabled cousin, but his mum wrote an article for his schools newsletter based on the poem :)

If you'd like, I'll email you the article.

Kath :D

Erin said...

Thanks for sharing this Cindy. It was really humbling to read and to understand this "life journey" from a new perspective.

Anne said...

Cindy....I LOVE this!

Angela said...

Awesome way to sum it all up. I hope you cherish Holland for all it has to offer!!!